I was angry!
My mood, my words, my loud voice, I was raging!
Everyone on the 2nd floor of our radio station cleared out, except one person!
He came into my office, closed the door, and said quietly and calmly, “Doug, calm down! Do you know how everyone else responds when you get upset?”
The truth was I didn’t! Not at that moment.
I don’t recall what I was upset about. I do remember Mike’s calm, direct, admonishment and my embarrassment.
As Radio Station General Manager I realized how impactful one person can be to the culture and energy of a business.
My anger management practice continues, especially in situations tied to deep emotions of love in relationships.
Anger is perhaps the worst emotion you can project in your business. Read Anger, the Boy and the Fence
Have you acted angry at times?
Owning a business feels like your baby, the most important thing in your world! You can lose emotional control when you feel so invested.
Role Model Questions
In recent blogs about Harvard Professor Robert Steven Kaplan’s What to Ask the Person in the Mirror: Critical Questions for Becoming a More Effective Leader and Reaching Your Potential, we’ve shared the leaders' role as visionary, coach/mentor, organizational architect, and change agent.
The most critical role you must play is a model for others, an example for others to follow.
Recognize that your words don’t speak as loudly or forcefully as the example YOU set by exhibiting (or not exhibiting) requested behaviors.
Knowingly or unknowingly, every leader plays this role.
Are YOU aware YOU serve this purpose in an organization?
Do you feel you can play by a different set of rules?
Do you believe it’s reasonable to ask employees to “do as I say, not as I do?”
If so, you fail to match your actions to your top priorities (see Vision & Priorities - What to Ask the Person in the Mirror).
YOU, the leader, are the most powerful role model for your organization.
When you see your people behaving in ways you don’t approve, instead of blaming them ask yourself, “In what way might my behavior influence someone to act this way?”
Behavior Never Lies
Your behavior speaks louder than any clever slogan or well-polished speech.
How Do Others See You?
Questions for self-reflection:
The Process of Self-Discovery
Leadership is about self-discovery and understanding. You need to understand you. As your roles evolve from producer to manager of a small team, to manager of a larger team, to having hundreds or thousands of employees, the pressures and the role model requirements you are expected to take on become dramatically more important.
Learning to Lead Others
The role-model analysis is not just about your behavior. It also relates to the behavior of those you promote. Just as you are a powerful role model, the people you promote to key jobs send enormously powerful signals to the organization about what you truly believe. (See questions in graphic)
How Do You Behave Under Pressure?
Go back to my opening story, and ask yourself this important question: What Creates “Pressure” for You?
Consider taking their Leadership Circle’s assessment. Your leadership journey should be about striving for greater Self-Awareness as You Become a Leader.
Becoming a Role Model
Robert Steven Kaplan shares his views on how critical being a role model is as a leader:
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