Are you able to invest your time on high-value activities or are you spending your time on low-value activities?
How well do you sustain your energy each day? Do you find yourself energized and active all day, or do you find that you frequently run out of energy and become exhausted as you run through your day?
ENERGY ALLOCATION CHART
Smart Tribes author Christine Comaford shares An Energy Management Tool to help get you focused on your high energy activities. I’ve completed the chart myself and it helped identify the activities I gain energy from, what activities I lose energy doing, along with a number of activities that get mixed results from. Mixed means sometimes they help you gain energy, and sometimes they drain you and you lose energy. The key in the Mixed column is to identify the context or specific part of the interaction that’s draining.
As an example: Someone you manage may enliven you most of the time. However this subordinate frequently interrupts you when you are trying to focus, thus draining your energy. Ask yourself this question: Is he fifty-fifty in the Mixed column? What percentage would you assign?
Can you identify the context or specific part of the interaction that’s draining?
What do you do with your list once you’ve completed it?
Get focused and present. Understand what’s really happening.
What is your energy allocation?
How many Gain items did you have versus Lose and Mixed?
Here’s an important question: How are you contributing to the energy loss you are experiencing? Are you giving unclear expectations (practicing clarity and explicit communication)? Are you creating unrealistic or non-agreed-upon deadlines (Comaford has another tool to help here called the Accountability Equation)? Are you paying attention to both your Map and theirs?
ACTION PLAN
Let’s see what you can do to make improvements in how you manage your energy.
Can you get rid of anything in your Lose column? Are there any activities you can delegate that drain you?
Here’s a question you may not have considered. What if it’s a person, does he/she have to be in your life?
If someone is pulling you away from your priority or ONE THING, consider putting a fence around people or establish boundaries for them and for you. Comaford suggests; in the case of relatives, you may have to strategize (with your significant other or siblings) about how to reduce the points of stress.
In the book Comaford shares how one of her customers negotiated with his spouse to manage his in-laws differently at the annual family function they hosted so that everyone shared the load and he didn’t feel like a servant.
MIXED CATEGORY
The Mixed category is the trickiest. A good strategy is to move the items from the Mixed list firmly into the Gain list. Look at Christine Comaford’s example
I would encourage you to pick up Comaford’s book SmartTribes. We’re going to explore the next piece of this chapter in my next blog, however every chapter in her book is loaded with ideas that are practical and more importantly actionable.
TAKEAWAYS
Act
There are three basic default roles that people lean toward: Victim, Rescuer, Persecutor These three roles are interdependent (there must be a Persecutor for there to be a Victim for the Rescuer to save). Which role do you play? (Hint it’s probably the role you played subconsciously or consciously in your family growing up) What is the result of being in this role—what does it “cost” you? What role do you think the key stakeholders in your organization see you in? How do you reinforce this?
We’ll look at these Comaford Ideas and the role the tension triangle plays in your ability to get the right outcomes next blog.